The most important thing

In an interview that will be published in June I was asked, "What do you feel is the most important thing a father can provide for his child?"

How would you answer? My response might have been different twenty years ago and may well be different twenty years from now (my kids are approaching 23, 21, 19 and 17) but this is how I responded today.

Beyond the mandatory essentials of providing for a child’s well being and development, the core of what I believe a father needs to provide for his child is encouragement. Encouragement that is beyond the sentimentality of a card, and more the practice of inspiring their children with courage, heart and hope. We do this through consistency and passion in our presence, our words and our actions. I want my children to grow up true to himself or herself and true to a discovered mission or purpose that is beyond them. I see a dad’s role then, in addition to helping provide a safe and healthy home, is to nurture their child’s courage to explore their heart and world with integrity and compassion.

Now it's your turn. Add your response to the comment section below.

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Sean Adams Sr.'s Gravatar What a difficult question, I imagine I would also be changing my answer from not just decade to decade, but day to day.

Today, I would like to say I don’t know.

I think the most important thing a father can provide for his child, beyond provision and presence is a transparent dependency on God. That is the ultimate gift a father can give to his children. To point them to the Father that never fails and show them what walking with God and even failing God looks like.

Our transparent dependency on God will inspire them, I believe to live a life of purpose and accountability, not to a nameless, person-less entity, but to a loving Father who will be there for them when I am old or weak or gone.
# Posted By Sean Adams Sr. | 5/24/10 8:53 AM
Carlos R. Solis's Gravatar The most important thing that a father can provide his children other than the basic provisions I think is guidance. We all had a wealth of experience in our lives, consequences for bad decisions as well as rewards for good decisions.

A childs mind is like a thirsty well , receiving and learning from our conversations and stories of "back in the day." We all want to be
(better parents) than our folks were to us. So our (positive) take on life would help our children to not fall in the same traps we did.
# Posted By Carlos R. Solis | 6/16/10 9:25 PM